It’s that time of year again. Time to assess the past and envision the future. Not everyone writes New Year Resolutions (my friend SuZen comes up with hers at each Solstice), but even when we do, it’s often hard to feel inspired about them. Who wants to write the same resolutions over and over again, especially when we weren’t successful in achieving them the last time we wrote them? And yet, this does help us to make a commitment to our goals. Statistics show that we retain 75% of what we write down. If the first step to achieving a goal is to remember it, then that’s obviously a very important step.
However, learning consultants say that most of us are more likely to retain ideas if we visualize them. Now, you could draw little pictures next to each resolution. Or you could make a Vision Board. I ran across this idea on Beliefnet. It wasn’t exactly a new idea to me: years ago I pasted my picture on the cover of a Writer’s Digest magazine as a way to visualize my success as a writer. I felt a little foolish doing it, but I have to admit that each time I look at that cover, I feel a little burst of self-esteem. The act of making that cover was an investment I made in myself. And every time I look at it, it has a positive effect on my psyche.
Here’s a great post from Super Kawaii Mama about why women let themselves go. SKM, or Candice DeVille, is an Australian stay-at-home mom of two who refuses to fade into the mediocrity of suburbia.
She is a fan of fashion, particularly of the vintage variety, but I see her a fashion feminist, even if she wouldn’t describe herself that way. What is a “fashion feminist”? It’s a term I just made up but I think that a lot of younger feminists could relate to it. It’s a woman who makes up her own mind about what she wants to wear. She’s not afraid to go retro or vintage or sock-it-to-ya colorful, or anything else that makes her feel good.
I’ve told you before about my passion for TLC’s “What Not to Wear” on which women are taught to make over their looks through fashion, hairdos and makeup. But that’s not exactly what I mean by “fashion feminism.” WNTW tends to steer its clients toward the latest in fashion. That certainly makes one look up-to-date, but it doesn’t leave room for much self-expression. I’ve seen a few episodes where the makeover wasn’t happy with the results; she just wants to go back to her old ways because they feel like “her.” Even in those instances, Stacey and Clinton manage to convey a few fashion rules–accentuate your assets, don’t be afraid of prints or color, etc.–but it’s always interesting to see them butt up against women who know their own minds.