The Pregnant Bride

Yesterday I raised some questions about getting pregnant before marrying. I cited some statistics about how many parents are avoiding marriage and how many babies are being born out of wedlock. I also questioned whether it was the most responsible thing to do. Having written all that, however, I have to admit that pregnant brides are becoming more prevalent and accepted. Also, if I had to choose, I’d rather see a woman get married while she’s pregnant than wait until after the baby’s born. Not all brides-to-be agree with me, but I think it’s sweet, and also symbolic of one important reason to get married: to give a child a safe and secure environment in which to be raised.

First off is a video about Destination Maternity‘s bridal fashions for pregnant brides and bridesmaids.

The main thing to keep in mind when choosing a wedding gown is that your shape is going to change, sometimes dramatically, the closer you get to your wedding (and due) date. If you can get a fast turnaround on a custom gown and your wedding isn’t too far off, you can get away with a fitted gown, like the one shown in this video.

The empire-waisted gown pictured to the right is from U.K based Tiffany Rose, which has several maternity gowns at reasonable prices. The Athena, approximately $520 (U.S.)Also check out this article from the Daily Mail (U.K.) for more pictures and statistics.

A particularly exciting (and eco-friendly) source for maternity (and other special occasion) gowns is Jessica Iverson Couture. Check out the 2010 Collection here. [Note: Don’t assume that an empire-waist will fit you all through the pregnancy. You get larger around your diaphragm, too, because of the baby pushing up. So take that into account and consider elastic!]

Another thing to keep in mind is your shoes. You definitely want them to be comfortable; high heels are probably out. You also have to take into account that your shoe size may change as you progress in your pregnancy because of swelling.  Some brides (not even pregnant ones) change into comfortable shoes like flats or even tennis shoes (in white!) for the reception.

Looking for a cake-topper that reflects your situation? Check out Magic Mud for custom-made wedding toppers such as the one pictured here.

Then there are the beverages. There should always be another option than alcohol for those who don’t or can’t drink–like the bride. The bachelorette party will need to be alcohol-free as well. And not too rambunctious!

As for the wedding and baby showers: You could simply have the wedding shower now and the baby shower later. But that depends on how close you are to delivering. If both are imminent, you might want to combine them for a little different twist.

3 Replies to “The Pregnant Bride”

  1. Hello, My name is Stephanie and I am a student at Roosevelt University in Chicago. As a class, we are creating a magazine catered to pregnant brides. I am writing a story on blogs and websites that cater to the pregnant bride. I would love to interview you for a story. Please contact me at Thank you!

  2. You bring up a good point. As a matter of fact, my grandmother (born in 1908) and grandfather refused to divulge their wedding date. It wasn’t until my grandfather died that my grandmother went up to my father at the funeral and told him, “You were a love child, Billy.” Of course we had figured it out, but no one would discuss it. And you’re right, it was irrelevant in the scheme of things.

    I actually think it is healthier to acknowledge the pregnancy and to even celebrate it. There’s no reason why a child should be stigmatized by being labeled “illegitimate.” All children are legitimate, no matter how or when they were conceived. (I remember when “test tube babies” were considered unnatural, as if they were somehow not real children.)

    Thanks for putting things in perspective. I always welcome your comments.

  3. You would be surprised to find out just how many brides were in fact pregnant when married. And I’m talking your generation and that of your mother’s. People politely ignored the less than nine months between honeymoon and birth and really in the scheme of things it is irrelevant.

    The reason older generations did marry before the birth was not just for social reasons but for the quaint custom of recording legitimacy on birth certificates. The word “bastard” on your birth certificate is not seen as a social positive. Yet it was still being done around 30 years ago …

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