Misogynist Myths – What Men Think About Women

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Here are a few statements about women that are stated as facts. Some of them are patently untrue while others have at least a kernel of truth to them. I’ve added some generalizations of my own in the comments. See what you think.

  1. Women are bad drivers. I discuss this in my February 11, 2010 post, “Women Drivers.”
  2. Women are emotional. While this may be true, that doesn’t mean that men aren’t also emotional. It’s just that the emotions themselves may be different.
  3. Women are passive. If this is so, it’s because they’re socialized to be that way.
  4. Women seek love as opposed to sex. See #5.
  5. Women are less interested in sex than men are. Depends on which women—and men—you’re talking to. Besides, if this were true, why do so many cultures go out of their way to control women’s sexuality?
  6. Women talk too much. No, they just tend to talk about different things than men do. And women have been tagged as talkative because men don’t value their opinions.
  7. Women are into commitment and monogamy more than men are. This may be hard-wired into them because they know they need a stable environment in which to raise children.
  8. Women are weak. Some women are physically weak compared to some men, but they tend to be stronger emotionally. And they handle pain better.
  9. Women are sneaky. This is another way of saying “passive-aggressive.” And like, passivity, they have learned to be “sneaky” because being out-front often backfires on them.
  10. Women are hard to work with/for. I say men are just as hard to work for although perhaps for different reasons (autocratic leadership styles, sexual harassment, not giving women credit, etc.)
  11. Women are more “into” parenthood than men are. This one is unfair to men.
  12. Women are better with babies and young children. Again, unfair to men.
  13. All women want to have children. Not true. And it’s not unnatural if they don’t.
  14. Women are especially suited for the “helping” professions. This is a myth that is perpetrated in order to keep women in their place. Besides, men don’t want to do the “dirty” work.
  15. Women don’t have the drive to succeed than men do (women are not ambitious). This one’s a laugh!
  16. Women can’t make up their minds. It may seem this way because women are good at looking at an issue from all sides and weighing the alternatives.
  17. Women are better at keeping house than men are. Maybe that’s because housekeeping is one sphere they’re allowed to operate in and they take pride in it. However, men can be just as good at it.
  18. Women have better verbal skills, men have better math skills. Although the brain shows signs of gender differentiation, this may be something that is encouraged by their environments.
  19. Women are more into the arts, men into sports. Same response as number 18.
  20. Women don’t age well. Really? Have you seen Susan Sarandon lately?

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Ellen Keim

Ellen is a freelance writer, essayist and copy editor, living with three cats and a husband in Columbus, OH.

5 thoughts on “Misogynist Myths – What Men Think About Women”

  1. Oh I get it , Joe. African Americans aren’t poor because of socialization at all. Africans are generally poor around the world, simple as that. We should just accept it. It’s ridiculous! It’s not innate unless we can prove it through an experiment.

    1. One of the most effective tricks that those in power use to keep others down is to blame their “inferiority” on nature, as if they bring their misfortunes on themselves. They refuse to see the part they play in brainwashing people to believe that they are inferior. I’m not saying that they do it consciously (although some certainly do). But society becomes complicit in this process; thus we have the process of “socialization.” Socialization can work both ways: it convinces those on top and bottom that they belong where they are. That’s why it’s so hard to change the process. The only way out is through education and consciousness-raising.

  2. You know, Joe, that’s funny, because you’re right. We SHOULD socialize people to be friendly and loving. Do you know why half of the serial killers, rapists, pedophiles, and especially terrorists, exist? Socialization. Where did the criminals grow up? Surely in friendly neighborhoods and loving parents? No. They grew up in war-torn neighborhoods where they were, indeed, socialized to be like everyone else they were around.

    Honestly, how often do you go down to Ms. Wonderful’s and Mr. Perfect’s home and see that their little Bobby became a serial killer? “Whoops! Guess people are just sometimes born that way!”

    Have you ever been told something over and over again (maybe like, “You can’t do this.” or “You CAN do this”) until you started changing your mind about what you thought before? In other words, has the opinion of anyone ever made you think differently? If it has, then you’ve been socialized. It’s a real thing.

    And if you say that women are just born to be passive, you can’t rightfully say that men aren’t more inclined to be born as serial killers, rapists, pedophiles or terrorists.

  3. #3 is the biggest liberal crock of bullshit ever. Women are passive because they have been “socialized” to be this way? We should be so lucky to be able to “socialize” women to such an extent, that they are passive in every corner of the WORLD, no matte how remote the location. Gee, with such amazing ability to uniformly mold 1/2 the world’s population to our liking, we should also tackle “socializing” people to be friendly and loving, rather than being serial killers, rapists, pedophiles, terrorists. At this rate we will have all of society’s ills cured in no time!
    Make no mistake about it, my friends, women are the way they are because they were BORN this way. It’s innate.

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